By Mary Smith

Times change, societies evolve, and last year’s hot garbage is this year’s haute couture. But one aspect of life remains persistently unchanged: First dates are tricky territory, a minefield of misread conversational cues, painfully awkward pauses, and sudden “not if you were the last person on Earth” insights. Dr. Venus Nicolino believes, however, that you can increase the chances of first-date success with the right attitude and a good plan.

She’s got plenty of advice for how to approach an event that most people, for better or worse, experience at least once in their lives. She also has a long history of reaching people in a variety of ways. She’s written bestsellers (Bad Advice: How to Survive and Thrive in an Age of Bulls–t), hosted podcasts (“The Tea With Dr. V”), and posted a fascinating collection of videos on her TikTok and Instagram channels. She’s also got the educational receipts: a master’s in counseling psychology and a master’s and Ph.D. in clinical psychology. 

In short, Nicolino knows what she’s talking about. And when she talks about first dates, she talks about being direct and stating your needs, both physical and emotional. Why waste time?

“There is never a wrong time to bring up what you want and what you need. So, if on the first date, if you want a family and you want to have children, that’s something that you should bring up,” Dr. Venus Nicolino said in a video for the New York Post’s “Page Six.”

“If this is something that the other person doesn’t want, or they think it’s inappropriate to bring up on a first date, then guess what? You’re not meant to be. Because if that person is looking to have kids and that person wants a family as well, then they are not going to be afraid of that conversation.”

Dr. Venus Nicolino Talks About Sex on the First Date

Nicolino — affectionately known as Dr. V — also addresses one of the biggest topics around first dates: Is it OK to have sex during that initial outing? Or should you wait? Many still follow the “third date rule” when it comes to having sex, a decades-old idea popularized by Sex and the City, according to eHarmony, which should know.

Waiting until the third date can “heighten the tension” and “make sex better when it does happen,” according to eHarmony, as well as allow you the time to “form a more complete picture of the person you’re with.” 

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